Bah! Valentines Day

Valentines Day – the seemingly endless vomiting up of pink, red, hearts, roses and lace. Add in societal pressure to celebrate it if you are in a relationship and the idea that you are somehow less of a person if you are single, it can make anyone bitter.

As a content creator I fully understand the desire to cash in on it, especially in this economy. But does it really need to last this long? I first started seeing it pop up into the feeds in early January. Couldn’t we have a holiday breather after the insanity that was xmas and new years?

There are two types of holidays that I hate: consumer holidays and those christianized from pagan rituals. In both cases the meaning and history of it tends to get lost in the shuffle by governments, religion and/or the media. Valentines Day is so effected by both that the actual history behind it is covered in myths and theories.

The Roman festival in mid February, Lupercalia, was to avert evil spirits and purify the city. It celebrated the god of shepherds named Lupercus, and also honoured Lupa – the she-wolf in the founding of Rome myth – to bring on spring.

Legends say these festivals included whipping women in the streets with the hides of sacrificed animals for increased fertility in the year. Another legend is that all young women in the city would place their names in an urn, the bachelors would choose a name and they would be paired for the year.

The legend of St Valentine being the patron saint of lovers for performing secret marriages for soldiers is undocumented, even in the early biographies of the many saints of the name. It wasn’t actually until the 14th century – around 1200 years later – that any link was made.

This was the time of Chaucer and “courtly love,” typically illicit affairs between the nobility. Remember marriage was a contract between families for money and power that rarely had anything to do with love. Many historians believe that these secret trysts were mental and rarely physical, so it’s pretty easy to assume that love notes were extremely common.

It wasn’t until the 17th century that Valentines Day, as we associate it now, was popularly celebrated. By the mid 18th century it was common to give handwritten notes and small tokens of affection. Now it has morphed into a consumer holiday of limitless items to purchase, usually based more in a media induced fear of the consequences than in actually showing affection.

But in SL™ it’s taken a step further. Anything that you can make with red, pink, hearts, flowers, and/or lace… you can buy. How is wandering the grid while poofing hearts showing affection? How exactly does the endless festive dresses available going to tell my partner I care?

Of course it didn’t start in SL™ by any means, but it’s more apparent that the main theme seems to have more to do with lust than love. The increased amount of sexy clothes (usually in pink or red), naughty poses, lingerie, ect. I suppose with the highly sexual nature of SL™ that it really shouldn’t come as a shock. Lust just has very little to do with love. But what I really don’t understand is using Valentines Day as an excuse for sex. As if we actually need one. Sex is awesome and should be a daily thing… right?


3 Responses to “Bah! Valentines Day”

  1. Bunny Brickworks Says:

    Amen, goddamn amen!!!

  2. For me, Valentine’s Day is simply an imported American consumer tradition. I don’t celebrate because it doesn’t have any meaning to me.

    In February we celebrate Carnaval which is also a Pagan tradition turned into Christan. Shrove Tuesday in England. Carnaval is better known in Brasil but it was the Portuguese that created the tradition there. 🙂

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